Greetings to all,

This is Dr Senthil Kumar,

Now a days many peoples suffering with genital warts. Especially those who are doing un-protected sex.

Now, let us see about genital warts.

Genital warts are, one of the most common types of, sexually transmitted infections.

Nearly, all sexually active people, will become infected with, at least one type of human papillomavirus – HPV, the virus that causes genital warts, at some point during their lives.

Genital warts, affect the moist tissues of the genital area. They can look like, small skin bump, a cluster of bumps, flesh-coloured bumps, cauliflower-like appearance, or stem-like protrusions. These warts can range in size and appearance,, In many cases, the warts are too small, to be visible.

Some strains of genital HPV can cause genital warts,

Genital warts are sexually transmitted. There are more than 200 different types of the HPV virus.

There are many different colour and shapes in HPV warts, like, flat or cauliflower-shaped, white, pink, red, purplish-brown, or skin-coloured

HPV will form on,

• Vulva,
• Cervix,
• Penis, or scrotum,
• Anus,
• groin area,

These warts can cause itching, burning, and other discomfort.

Now, let us see, some Other types of warts.

HPV, can also cause, common warts, plantar warts, and flat warts.

Common warts are seems to be, rough, raised bumps, that, tend to form on the, hands, fingers, and elbows.

Plantar warts are, hard, grainy growths, that, often form on the, feet, usually on the, heels, or, balls of the feet.

Then, Flat warts are, flat-topped, slightly raised, lesions that are darker than the surrounding skin, and often appear on the face, or neck.

Now, let us see the Symptoms of HPV,

In women, genital warts can grow,

on the vulva,

the walls of the vagina,

the area between the external genitals,

and the anus, the anal canal, and the cervix.

In men, they may occur on the tip, or shaft of the penis, the scrotum, or the anus.

Genital warts, can also develop in the mouth, or throat of a person, who has had, oral sexual contact, with an infected person.

The other few signs, and symptoms of genital warts, include,

Small, flesh-coloured, brown, or pink swellings, in your genital area,

A cauliflower-like shape, caused by several warts close together.

Itching, or discomfort, in your genital area,

Some times, Bleeding may happens, after intercourse.

Few, Genital warts can be, so small, and flat, as to be invisible.

Rarely, however genital warts can multiply, into large clusters, in someone with a suppressed immune system.

Now, let us discuss, how to Prevent HPV wart infection.

Sexually active people, can reduce the risk of developing genital warts, in several ways. Using barrier protection, such as condoms, reduces but does not completely eliminate the risk.

It is important, for sexually active people, to keep in mind, that a person can transmit HPV, without knowing that they have it. without the presence of genital warts.

A person can contract, or transmit an HPV infection, through skin-to-skin genital contact, such as, during vaginal, anal, or oral sex.

Some people have the infection ,but experience no symptoms and show no signs.

Those who are having sexual contact without using barrier protection, are easily infected with HPV genital warts.

Now, we will see about the treatment for HPV genital warts,

There are chances to re occur, HPV warts even after, Laser, Cryo Surgical removal. Applying topical acid based creams, and lotions may take of the warts, for few days or months. But, again there are chances to re appear.

In Homeopathy system of medicines, Symptomatic, constitutional, Homeopathy medicines are, helps for genital warts. This also, helps to prevent further, appearance. So, if you suffering with genital warts, its better to consult a homeopathy doctor, without any hesitation.

Thank you,

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Male Reproductive System

Female Reproductive System

• The female sexual organs are both internal and external. The clitoris, mons pubis, inner and outer lips, and the vaginal opening are external, and together are known as the vulva.

Clitoris

• Like the penis, it contains sensitive nerve endings and becomes erect and filled with blood during stimulation; has no reproductive function.

Fallopian Tubes

• Fallopian tubes are very narrow; extend from the top sides of the uterus; the path along which eggs travel from the ovaries.

G-Spot

• The exact location sparks great debate. There’s no consensus on where to find it. However, many researchers say it’s the glandular tissue around the urethra (found behind the female pubic bone, about two inches inside the front of the vagina).

Labium Majora

• The outer lips on both sides of the vaginal opening and are covered with pubic hair.

Labium Minora

• The inner lips are hairless and folded, and lie between the outer lips and run along the edge of the vagina.

Mons Pubis

• The mons pubis is a rounded pad of tissue that lies on top of the pubic bone and is covered with pubic hair.

Ovaries

• Ovaries are roughly the size of almonds; sit on each side of the uterus; produce eggs and female sex hormones, oestrogen and progesterone.

Urethra

• It is about 1 ½ inches long, this leads from the bladder to the exterior, and is the passage through which urine is eliminated. It is just in front of the vagina.

Uterus

• It looks like an upside-down pear and is about the size of your fist; main function is to hold and feed a developing fetus; the cervix is the tiny donut-shaped neck of the uterus that lies at the top of the vagina and is the part a PAP smear is taken from; the inner layer of the uterus called endometrium, which is what is discarded during menstruation.

Vagina

• A passageway about 3 to 4 inches (8 to 10 centimetres) long; begins with the vaginal opening at the bottom, and connects to the cervix at the top. Also known as the birth canal.

 

 

 

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A

Abortion – The surgical procedure to terminate a pregnancy in its early stages

Active – The person who takes the male or aggressive role in a sexual relationship

Adultery – Sexual intercourse between two people when one or both parties are married to someone else

Affair – A love affair or sexual relationship that is illicit or secret

A-hole – The anus

Amateur – A girl who indulges in sexual intercourse frequently without pay usually with several men

Ambisextrous – Bi-sexual

Anal Coitus – sex in the rectum

Anal Eroticism – Sexual sensitivity in the anus or rectum

Anal Fetish – A preoccupation with or preference for the anus or rectum

Anal Intercourse – The introduction of any foreign body into he anus by another person for sexual relations

Andrin – The hormones produced by the male sex glands

Anus – The opening of the rectum

Aphrodisiac – ingested substance that increases the sexual appetite

Arc of Erection – The angle at which the penis extends from the body when aroused

Areola – The brownish or pinkish area of flesh immediately surrounding the nipple of the breasts

Around the World – The act of kissing the entire body from one end to the other as a prelude for other sexual activity

Artificial Insemination – Impregnating artificially by injecting semen into the uterus by means of a syringe

B

Back Door – The anus or rectum

Balls – The testicles

Bang – To copulate

Beat Off – To perform manual masturbation of the penis

Behind – The buttocks

Bestiality – Sexual relations with animals

Bi-sexual – An individual who takes part in sexual activity with both sexes

Bitch – A woman or girl who is promiscuous

Blast Off – To experience orgasms

Blowjob – The act of performing oral sex on a male

Blue Balls – Pain in the testicles from lack of ejaculation

Bondage – The practice of sexual domination of a sado-masochist quality, including restraints, humiliation, punishment, torture etc..

Bone – The erect penis

Boobs – The female breasts

Bordello – House of prostitution

Box – The vagina

Breasts – Either of two milk-secreting, glandular organs on the chest of a woman; the human mammary gland

Briar Patch – The pubes

Broad – Any girl or young woman

Brothel – A house of prostitution

Browning – To perform anal intercourse

Buck Naked – Completely naked

Bum – The buttocks

Bunghole – The anus

Burn – To infect someone with a venereal disease

Bush – Pubic hair of either sex especially if it’s thick or coarse; often more associated with female pubes

Bush Dinner – Cunnilingus

Bust – Female breasts

Butch – A lesbian who is very masculine in traits and appearance

Buttocks – The rump formed by the two protuberances behind the hips on which human beings sit

Button – The clitoris

C

Cabbage – The vagina

Cake – The vagina

Cake Eater – A cunnilinguist

Cake Shop – A house of prostitution

Call Girl – A prostitute

Cane – The penis in a state of erection

Canned Goods – A virgin

Canoe Inspector – A gynaecologist

Carnal – Relating to physical and especially sexual appetites

Casanova – An adventurous lover and seducer of women

Castration – Surgical procedures performed upon the testicles to make the reproductive glands inoperable

Cat House – A house of prostitution

Celibacy – The state of being unmarried and of living a life with no sexual relations

Cervix – The opening to the uterus or womb at the far end of the vagina

Cancroid -A small ulcer usually occurring on the genitals – very infectious

Charleys – The testicles

Cheat – To be unfaithful to one’s spouse or regular sex partner

Cheeks – The fleshy portion of the buttocks

Cherries – the female nipples

Cherry – The hymen in virgin women

Circumcision – Surgical removal of the foreskin of the penis

Circus – An orgy

Clap – Gonorrhoea

Cleavage – The valley which separates the female breasts

Climax – Orgasm

Clitoral Stimulation – Direct manipulation or rubbing of the clitoris using any means

Clitoridotomy – Female circumcision

Clitoris – The principle organ of sexual sensation in the female. It is shaped like a small peak and located just above the vaginal entrance beneath the labia minora. Like the penis of a male, the clitoris enlarges when stimulated

Closet Dyke – An active female homosexual who puts her true character in hiding

Closet Queen – See Closet Dyke

Cock – The penis

Cock Eater – One who performs oral sex on a male

Cocksucker – Anyone who performs oral sex on a male

Cock Teaser – One who excites a male without carrying on to actual sex relations

Cohabit – To live, sleep and have sexual relations as a man and wife

Coitus – Sexual intercourse

Come – To have an orgasm or reach a sexual climax

Comings – Semen

Conception – The uniting of semen and ovum during intercourse; impregnation

Concubine – A mistress

Concurrent Climax – A simultaneous climax or orgasm between two partners

Condom – A prophylactic; A flexible sheath, usually made of thin rubber or latex, designed to cover the penis during sexual intercourse for contraceptive purposes or as a means of preventing sexually transmitted diseases

Contraceptive – A device, drug, or chemical agent that prevents conception

Cookie – The female or male genitalia

Coosie – The vagina

Cop a Cherry – To copulate with a virgin

Cop a Feel – To fondle a person without necessarily continuing with other more explicit sexual activity

Copulation – Sexual intercourse in a conventional manner, the male inserts his penis into the vagina

Corona – The ridge of skin which forms the base of the penis and separates the head from the shaft

Cosset – To fondle and caress lovingly and with physical intimacy

Courtesan – A very high class of prostitute or kept woman

Crab Lice – Very small vermin which infest the pubic areas of human beings and are passed on to others through sexual intercourse

Cream – Semen ejaculated in intercourse

Crotch – The genital area of the pelvis

Crud – Anything that is dirty and dried

Cruise – To look over perspective love partners

Cunnilingus – Oral sex performed on the female vagina

Cunt – The vagina; A derogatory designation for any female

Cunt Lapper – One who practices cunnilingus

D

Daisy Chain – A group sex activity in which there is a linking of several people who are connected sexually with each other for the purpose of achieving orgasms

Dead Stick – A penis which is either permanently or temporarily incapable of an erection

Debauchery – Overindulgence in sexual pleasures

Defile – To rape or otherwise violate a woman who is still a virgin

Defloration – The act of taking away a female’s virginity

Degenerate – A person whose abnormalities go way beyond the average actions of heterosexual or homosexual intercourse

Dermophiliac – A leather fetishist

Derriere – The backside or buttocks

Deviate – A sex pervert of any kind

Diaphragm– A contraceptive device consisting of a thin flexible disk, usually made of rubber that is designed to cover the uterine cervix to prevent the entry of sperm during sexual intercourse

Dick – The penis

Dick Dip – The simple act of copulation

Dick taster – One who engages in oral sex with a male

Diddle – To perform masturbation

Dildo – An artificial penis used by a female to perform masturbation

Dirty Barrel – A penis or vagina infected with a venereal disease

Discipline -Punishment intended to correct or train used in masochist-sadist practices

Dishonourable Discharge – An act of masturbation by the male, particularly when he had been greatly aroused by a girl who will not submit to sexual intercourse

Dissolute – Free of any sexual restraints

Dong – The penis

Don Juan – A type of lover who enjoys feeling victory in seduction more than the sensual pleasure

Douche – The cleaning process of the vagina by use of a spray attachment

Drag – The wearing of clothing of the opposite sex

Drag Queen – A female impersonator

Dry Run/Fuck – The act of rubbing pelvises with a female while fully clothed. The practice might result in an actual orgasm

Dusters – The testicles

Dyke – A female that assumes the masculine role in a lesbian relationship

E

Easy Mark – A woman who will enter a sexual relationship without much persuasion

Effeminate – Feminine in appearance and/or in actions

Ejaculation – The forceful discharge of semen through the urethra of the penis, which determines the moment of orgasm in males.

Emasculation – Castration

Erection – The firm and enlarged condition of a body organ or part when the erectile tissue surrounding it becomes filled with blood, especially such a condition of the penis or clitoris

Erogenous – Responsive or sensitive to sexual stimulation arousing sexual desire

Eros – The Greek god of love

Erotic – Tending to arouse sexual desire or concerning sexual love

Exhibition – A sex orgy or circus, usually a semi-private affair that one must pay to see

Exhibitionist – One who likes to display their body in the nude, particularly the genitals, in public or before a group

Exotic – A stripper or other dancer who does a strip tease or other suggestive interpretive dance in a minimum of costume or one fitted to the configuration of the body

F

Fag – A male homosexual

Fairy – A male homosexual

Family Jewels – The male testicles

Fanny – The buttocks [USA] The Vagina [UK]

Feel Up – To manipulate female’s erogenous areas while embracing or petting

Feel My Pulse – A man’s invitation to his love partner to grasp his penis and thus gauge his passion

Fellare – Fellatio

Fellatio – Oral sex on the male member effected by introducing the penis into the mouth and sucking on the organ while moving the head up and down to emulate the motions of copulation and continuing to the point of orgasm

Fem – The passive female in a homosexual relationship. Opposite of Dyke

Female Domination – A sex practice whereby the man desires to be completely dominated by his female partner

Fetish – Sexual devotion to a particular object or part of the body. This may be any portion of the body or some inanimate thing such as a piece of clothing

Finger – To manipulate a female’s vagina with the fingers

Flaccid – Denoting the state of the penis when limp

Flagellation – The propensity for sexual satisfaction from whipping or being whipped

Flang – The corona of the penis

Flesh Peddler – A pimp

Fleshpot – A red light district or general area where prostitutes hang out

Flute – A male homosexual

Fly Jockey – A man who copulates without removing his trousers through the fly of his pants

Fool Around – To engage in sexual foreplay with no serious intent of intercourse

Foreplay – The love play leading up to intercourse

Foreskin – The loose fold of skin that covers the glans of the penis at birth

Fornication – Sexual intercourse between partners who are not married to each other

Fraternize – To keep intimate company with a person

Freak – A person who desires sex in bizarre and unusual ways

Freebie – Sexual conquest without monetary cost

Free Show – A quick peek at a girl’s thighs or breasts as she adjusts a stocking or bra strap, crosses her legs etc..

French – To perform oral sex

French Kiss – To kiss passionately with the lips parted and tongues exploring

Fresh Meat – A female virgin or one who is relatively new to intercourse

Frig – To finger the female genitalia

Frottage – The practice of rubbing up against someone for sexual gratification

Fruitcake – A male homosexual

Fuck – The act of copulation

Fur – pubes of the vagina

G

The Gadget – The penis

Gallant – A refined gentleman

Gang Bang – A party or orgy in which two or more males takes turns having intercourse with the same girl

Garden – The female genital region

Gay – Referring to either a male or female homosexual

Genitalia – The surface organs of reproduction on both the male and the female

Genitals – See Genitalia

Get It Up – To achieve an erect penis

Get Your Rocks Off – Males achieving orgasm

Giggle Stick – The penis

Gigolo – A man who profits from his association with women. This type is usually very good looking and has plenty of sex appeal

Ginger – A prostitute who makes a habit of robbing her customers

Give Head – To perform oral sex on a male

Glans Clitorides – The head of the clitoris

Glans Penis – The head of the penis

Globes – The female breasts

Glory Hole – A hole, which has been cut in the wall of a public toilet to another adjoining toilet and used by homosexuals to observe or interact with someone else

Gobbler – A person who enjoys oral sex with a male

Go Down – To perform oral sex on a person’s genitals

Golden Shower – A method of perverted gratification of a sexual desire attained by urinating on your love partner or being urinated upon

Gonads – The testicles or the ovaries, which are primary sex glands in the male and female for producing future generations

Gonga – The anus

Gonorrhoea – A sexually transmitted disease caused by gonococcus bacteria that affects the mucous membrane chiefly of the genital and urinary tracts and is characterized by an acute purulent discharge and painful or difficult urination, though women often have no symptoms

Goolies – The testicles

Goose – To playfully tickle someone from behind usually aiming for the rear end

Grapefruits – Extremely large female breasts

Grass – The pubic area in males or females

Greek Love – Anal intercourse

Grinder – A stripper or other entertainer bumping her pelvis

Group Masturbation – Three or more persons who practice masturbation on each other or themselves in a group party

Group Sex – An exhibition or orgy among couples who engage in either simple acts of copulation or perverted sexual encounters with other couples or singles taking turns at both performing and watching the other performers

G-string – A small material covering only the female pubic area, which is secured by thin straps around the hips

Gun – The penis

Gynaecologist – A physician specializing in the care and treatment of the female genitalia and reproductive tract

H

Hair Pie – The Vagina as an object of cunnilingus

Hammer – The penis

Hand Job – Masturbation when it is received from the hands of another

Hanky-Panky – An immoral or illicit sexual activity

Hard On – An erection indicating the state in the male where the penis is actually hard

Hard Up – The term is primarily used by men and refers to a lack of a sex partner

Harem – A collection of lovers, which are available to be used by one person

Harlot – A prostitute

Head – One who performs oral sex

Headlights – Large female breasts

Hedonism – A way of life in which one gratifies all sexual and sensual desires of the individual without moral restraint

Hermaphrodite – A person who is born with both male and female genitals although one set is almost always incompletely developed

Hershey Highway – The rectum

Heterosexual – A person who prefers sexual intercourse only with members of the opposite sex

Homo – A homosexual

Homosexual – One with a complete sexual attraction for only members of their own sex

Hooker – A prostitute

Horizontal exercise – Intercourse

Horny – Passionate and needing sexual intercourse

Horse Around – To play, cuddle, fondle and pet up to the point of intercourse

Hot – An indication of the body temperature during moments of great passion

Hung – Referring to size of the male genitalia and used particularly to denote a penis size of immense proportions

Hustle – To seek customers when one is a prostitute

Hymen – The fold of membrane partly covering the orifice of the virgin vagina in childhood and adolescence but usually broken during the first act of intercourse by the insertion of the penis

I

Immoral – Unlawful or improper relations of a sexual nature

Impotency – Incapable of intercourse as associated with the male who is incapable of achieving an erection due to age, stress, physical or psychological problems

Impregnation – The uniting of the male semen with the female ovum and onset of pregnancy

Incest – Sexual relations between members of an immediate family other than the husband and wife

Indecent – Often refers to exposing one’s genital parts in public

Intercourse – The Sexual joining together of two partners in the act of copulation

Invert – A homosexual

Iron – A male prostitute

J

Jack Off – Males performing masturbation

Jerk Off – To perform masturbation of the male member

Jerk The Snake – To perform masturbation of the male member

Jism – Semen

Joy Stick – The penis

K

Kama – Great sexual passion (Hindu love god)

Keister – the buttocks

Kicks – Sexual Thrills

Kinky – Sexually abnormal or perverse

Knob – The penis

Knobs – The female breasts

Knockers – The female breasts, especially if large and sexually stimulating in appearance

Knock Up – To impregnate, make pregnant

Knot – The corona of the penis

L

Labia Majora – The large outer lips that mark the entrance to the vagina

Labia Minora – The smaller, inner lips at the entrance to the vagina which are formed just below the labia majora

Lap It – To perform oral sex on the female

Lavender Boy – A male homosexual

Lay – The act of copulation or other intercourse

Lesbian – A female homosexual

Lesbo – A lesbian

Libido – Sexual need, hunger or appetite

Lick – To perform oral sex on a female

Lips – 1.The fleshy folds which form the opening of the mouth on the human face and are secondary erogenous zone 2. The labia majora and labia minora of the female vulva

Little Brother – The penis

Little Sister – The vagina

Load – The product of a single ejaculation

Lollipop – The vagina or penis as an object of oral intercourse

Lust – Sexual desire or passion, particularly when odd a heightened or extreme nature

M

Madam – The proprietors or manager of a house of prostitution

Mammae or Mammary Glands – The breasts, which are capable of producing and secreting milk

Mammary Intercourse – Intercourse performed by penile contact with the breasts of the lover partner

Manual Exercises – Masturbation

Masochism – Desire for maltreatment as a means of sexual gratification

Masturbation – The practice of arriving at orgasm through manual manipulation or other frictional contact with the genitalia without copulation

Matinee – An afternoon session of copulation or other love making

Meat – The penis

Melons – The female breasts

Menopause – The change of life in women during which menstruation ceases and other mental and physical changes may occur

Menstruation – A periodic vaginal flow of bloody mass and liquid occurring about once a month and lasting 3-5 days which carries out with it the unfertilized ovum from the uterus. It is immediately after the period that the female is normally the most receptive to sexual activity

Mess Around – To cheat sexually on one’s spouse or love partner. 2.To engage in foreplay short of actual intercourse

Middle Leg – The penis

Misfire – Accidental ejaculation during love play prior to intercourse

Mons Veneris – Pubic mound

Mowed Lawn – Descriptive of the vagina when the pubic mound is shaved

Muff Diver – One who performed oral sex on the female

Muffins – Small breasts

Multiple Climaxes – A series of several successive orgasms experienced by many females during a single act of coitus

Mutual Masturbation – Group masturbation whereby two or more people of the same or different sexes either masturbate themselves or each other in concert and attempt to achieve orgasm at the same time

Mysophilia – The love of things filthy and unclean

N

Narcissism – Pleasure or desire stimulated by one’s own body

Nates – The buttocks

Naughty – Indecent; improper

Neck – To kiss while embracing

Necrophilia – Sexual love of the dead including actual intercourse with corpses

Ninnies – The female breasts

Nipples – The small projection near the centre of the mammary gland containing the outlets of the milk ducts through which young mammals obtain milk from the adult female; a teat

Nookie – Copulation

Nubbies – Female breasts

Nude – A naked person

Nymphomaniac – female with excessive and insatiable desire for sexual activity (nympho)

O

Obscene – Offensive to the average person

Old Dirt Road – The anus/rectum

Old Fashioned Way – Missionary position

One Night Stand – A one time sexual affair between two people that will probably never see each other again

Oral Contraceptive – A pill, typically containing oestrogen or progesterone that inhibits ovulation and thereby prevents conception. Also called birth control pill

Oral Sex – Sexual intercourse where the mouth of one sex partner is used in connection with the genitalia of the other to produce orgasm

Orgasm – The end-pleasure or climax

Orgy – A private party where uninhibited group sex is practiced

Ovaries – The reproductive glands in the female located within the pelvic cavity near the uterus, which produce the ovum or egg, which is fertilized by the male sperm during impregnation

Ovum – The female egg of reproduction, which is fertilized by the male semen during copulation

P

Pedophilia – Erotic love for a child by an adult

Pair – The female breasts

Pansy – An obvious male homosexual

Park – To park in a car at a secluded spot for the purpose of necking or actual intercourse

Parlour House – A house of prostitution

Passion – Sexual desire or excitement

Passive – Descriptive of the person who takes the feminine or passive role in a sexual act or relationship

Pecker – The penis

Peep Show – Any performance by scantily attired girls or strippers

Peeping Tom – A voyeur who specializes in watching women undress from an unobserved spot

Pencil – A very small penis

Penilinctus – Oral sex on the male sex organ

Penis – The primary sex organ of the male. The shaft like projection from the pit of the pelvis which is used in sexual intercourse. Generally a soft muscle when relaxed, the penis hardens during sexual stimulation as the blood rushes to the organ causing it to become erect

Penis Erectus – The condition of the penis at high sexual excitement

Penis P

The Most Common Mistakes Men Make In Bed-Women’s view

Settling For Mediocrity/Not Making An Effort:

• “Is your relationship in neutral? Many men have the impression that as long as they are not yelling at their wives, beating them, cheating on them, or leaving huge messes around the house, they must be good husbands. All that means is that they aren’t bad husbands. They are probably just average husbands. Instead of not just yelling at their wives, husbands should make an effort to say lots of wonderful things to their wives. Instead of not just beating his wife, a husband should make certain he often lovingly touches her: stroking her hair, lightly kissing her neck, gently massaging her shoulders, kindly rubbing her feet, and giving her light kisses on her cheek, nose, ears, forehead, and of course, lips. A man should only not cheat on his wife, he should passionately seduce her. Not being a total slob isn’t bad, but helping your wife with the chores is even better. Giving her a whole day or week off from her usual chores and you doing them for her is best. Men should never settle for being average. If your relationship has been in neutral, it’s time for you to move into first gear.”
• If you find that you have fallen into the mediocrity trap, then you probably shouldn’t be too surprised that your sex life has suffered as a result. Here are some ways to avoid mediocrity and rise to the top.
• One great way to avoid mediocrity and keep sex spicy hot is to learn how to make love outside of the bedroom. No, I’m not talking about making love on the kitchen counter or dining room table. I’m talking about making love with your woman in a non-sexual way. If she regularly prepares supper, do you ever ask her if she needs help? If she is the one that normally does the dishes, do you regularly do them instead? Do you help her around the house? Do you touch her in non-sexual ways? Do you ever kiss her outside the bedroom? I promise you, the better you learn to make love to her outside of the bedroom, the better she will make love with you inside the bedroom. If she is resentful for the things you do (or don’t do) outside the bedroom, how can she give herself to you fully and excitedly in the bedroom? Something to think about, don’t you think?
• Do you ever touch her outside the bedroom? One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to only touch you lady when you want sex. She will pick up on this and likely start to resent you for it. Instead, be sure to touch her often in a non-sexual way. For instance, while she is cooking or brushing her teeth in the mirror, go up behind her and give her a big hug. Or, if she is working on the computer or reading a book, go up behind her and give her a small kiss on the neck or a backrub. Pay attention. There are many opportunities throughout your day together to do this for her. She will feel appreciated and she will love you for it.

Do you ever kiss her – REALLY kiss her?

•  I say anything under 10 seconds doesn’t even qualify as a kiss. Sure, there will be times when you have to dash off to the store before it closes and a peck will have to do, but try to make those times the exception rather than the rule.

Do you spend time together?

• Make a conscious effort to make quality time for your partner every day – even if it’s ten minutes of snuggling before going to sleep. Most women need to make a connection everyday. Take a walk together after dinner. Have a laugh at the supermarket. Clean or wash the car together. Have fun doing whatever you do together. Take a class. Join a club. Support a candidate. Plan a getaway. Tickle. Be Goofy. Just make sure you spend quality time with your lady – everyday. She will love you for it.
• Create rituals that involve sharing time. No matter how busy you are, make the time. Have one night a week set aside to watch videos in bed. Go for a special brunch every Sunday. Read the Sunday paper together in bed. Make her breakfast every Saturday morning. You get the idea. Rituals are an important part of a relationship. They provide fun, anticipation, security, and mostly intimacy.

Do you talk to her?

• Do you listen to her – REALLY listen? Ask her about her day and then listen to her. Don’t try to solve all of her problems. Just sympathize with her, tell her you love her, and let her know that you are her biggest fan.

Do you compliment her?

• Do you build her up and brag on her in front of others?
• Do you help her out with chores, the kids, and housework? Does she feel overburdened?
• When is the last time you called her just to say, “I love you”?
• When is the last time the two of you went somewhere romantic?
• Take her away for the weekend. Don’t expect sex. Don’t ask for it. Just work on rediscovering what it was about each other that made you fall in love in the first place. The sex will likely follow.

Not Shaving:

• If you have a rough beard, moustache, or goatee, it can really hurt your lady when you kiss her, suck her breasts, or give her oral sex. You can test the roughness of your facial hair by rubbing the inside of your wrist or the back of your hand against your moustache, beard, or goatee. If it’s rough against the back of your hand, just think about how it must feel to her soft, delicate tissue. A close shave or using hair conditioner on your beard should take care of this problem.

Poor Personal Hygiene:

• Some ladies have complained that a few guys need more help with their personal hygiene. Make sure you brush your teeth, use deodorant, and cut your toenails, they say. Some ladies really like nice cologne, too. While our natural body scent contains pheromones, nobody wants to be with someone that lets their natural scent get out of control.

Bragging About How Good He Is In Bed:

• “Another big mistake for a guy to do is brag about how good he is in bed. I had a guy do that to me one evening. I asked him how good he was at masturbation. He said he was great at masturbation. I told him I was glad to hear that, because that’s what he would be doing tonight. Then I got up and left.” If you are good in bed, guys, she will find out soon enough. Bragging about it is not only unnecessary, it can turn her off. Being confident is great. Being braggadocios is not.

Not Giving Clear Insight Into Their Sexual Desires And Needs:

• Oftentimes, men aren’t the best communicators inside the bedroom – or outside of the bedroom, for that matter. Many women would like to know about our sexual needs and desires. Learn to open up and communicate better and you may take your lovemaking to a whole new level.

No (Or Not Enough) Kissing and Foreplay Before The Main Event:

• One lady commented, “Is this a race? An 8 second rodeo? Slow down, Cowboys!” Another complained, “He thinks foreplay is each of us taking our clothes off and lying down.” Foreplay isn’t optional. It isn’t a luxury to indulge in only when you have enough time – especially when you plan to engage in intercourse. The woman needs time for her vagina to prepare itself for penetration. Give her the time to prepare, and she will enjoy the experience on a higher level – and so will you. Instead of diving right for her crotch, spend some time kissing her, touching her, and talking to her.
• This will help build anticipation and desire. Besides, studies have shown that after 21 minutes or longer of foreplay, 92.3% of women will orgasm at some point during your lovemaking session. Not enough foreplay makes it seem like you don’t care about pleasing her and only care about your own pleasure. If your lady knows that you will take great care of her during your lovemaking, she is more likely to want to engage in it more often. That makes sense, doesn’t it?

Too Much Tongue:

• “Don’t force it. I like tongue, but not down my throat.” I’ve read this complaint from a lot of different sources. It seems that it’s a pretty common one. Don’t force your tongue down her throat like you are trying to unclog a drainpipe. That’s just not romantic. Try being soft, slow, and gentle. Try holding her face in your hands while you kiss her. Try stroking her hair or her cheek.

Giving Hickeys:

• While a lot of women really like to have their necks gently suckled, no woman wants to have to wear turtle neck sweaters for a few weeks to hide a hickey that you gave her. If you are going to give hickeys, do so on the areas where clothing will definitely cover them up, and with her permission only.

Ignoring The Other Parts Of Her Body:

• A woman has more parts to her body than just her two breasts and her vagina. There are many other areas of her body. Some have been touched less than a leprous nun in solitary confinement due to the fact that a lot of men just go right for the breasts and the vagina and forget about everything else. Spend some time touching her and getting to know her body without touching her breasts or vagina for awhile. She will appreciate the attention and will know that you are a man who truly knows how to please a woman.

Keep Your Hands Moving

• “Touch me. Don’t rest your hands as if you are tired or something. Move them over my skin all the time.” Ladies don’t want you to appear bored. Keep your hands moving. Stimulate her in as many ways as possible. If your hands need a rest, then try holding her hands with yours. Many women really like it when you hold their hand during lovemaking, as it can help you connect better with her.

Zigzag Technique:

• As surprising as it may seem at first, a woman’s skin is her largest sex organ. As a result, anywhere that she has skin can become an erogenous zone, depending on how you touch her.
• Take your fingertips in a zigzag motion and run them all over her body. The reason that a zigzag motion works better than a straight line is because with the straight line, the little nerves of her skin in the path of your straight line “know” they are going to be touched. With a zigzag motion, the little nerves “hope” they will be touched. This produces a different, more pleasant effect. Try it on your own arm and feel the difference.

Massaging Her Too Roughly:

• Women oftentimes think that a man’s touch is too rough. You have the right idea if you are giving her a massage as a part of foreplay, but you can ruin an all-good thing by being too rough with her. Be gentle unless you have her permission to be rougher.

Undressing To Early:

• Undressing too early is not the best move. This can signal your lady that you expect sex. Even if you do think the evening will turn sexual, it may be best to wait until things get a little hot and heavy and she starts to peel your shirt or pants off, first.

Taking Your Pants Off First:

• I have read from many different sources that women believe a man in only his socks and underwear is a man at his worst. Be sure to take your socks off before your pants so your lady never has to see you in a less than flattering light.

Nudging Her Head Down For Oral Sex:

• Not a good plan. If you want oral sex from her, it’s best to ask her. Don’t nudge her head toward your penis. Many women said they don’t like this.

Using Your Hand To Move Her Head Up And Down While She Gives You Oral Sex:

• This was by far the most common response that I received from my surveys. Apparently, women HATE this. You can rub your fingers through her hair, stroke her cheek, or rub her back, but NEVER, EVER force her head onto your penis with your hand.

Thrusting While She Gives You Oral Sex:

• Many women don’t like it when you thrust while they are giving you oral sex. They said they prefer you lie still while they move their head up and down. They can better control the depth and speed that way. Some women may not mind it, though. Your best bet is to ask your lady and see what she says.

Not Warning Her When You Are About To Cum While She Gives You Oral Sex:

• This was another very popular response from the women who took my survey. Not every woman likes the taste of semen. Be sure to warn her when you are about to orgasm so she can choose what she would like to do with it. Many women commented that if a man doesn’t warn her first, he would never get more oral sex from her again.

No Kissing After Oral Sex:

• “It really bugs me that he won’t kiss me after I give him a blow job.” That’s a great way to make sure you never get oral sex again, guys. If she is going to be so kind and loving to give you oral sex, the least you can do is not make her feel like a leper afterwards. Give her a big kiss and let her know how much you love her and appreciate the pleasure that she gives you.

Not Offering To Return Sexual Favours:

• This was another pretty common survey response. It seems that some men expect to receive oral sex from their women, but don’t want to return the favour. Another interesting note is that I remember most of these guys as being past partners – not current ones. Hmmmm…I wonder why!?

Poor Manual Dexterity:

• Fumbling when trying to remove her bra or panties just doesn’t cut it.

Unfastening a Bra Tip:

• I have to get something off my chest and keep you abreast of the situation. If you are like a lot of guys when it comes to bras, and you are more likely to bust a finger than finger a bust when it comes to removing one of these booby traps, then this tip is for you. First, some basic bra knowledge. Most bras fasten in the back, although some fasten in the front, between the cups. Next, know what you are dealing with. Borrow one of your lady’s bras and examine the mechanics of the fasteners. Practice fastening it and unfastening it. Wait until you are alone and sit down on the edge of your bed or in a chair with your thighs exposed. Now, wrap the bra around your thigh or thighs and fasten it with the hooks facing up. Now practice fastening and unfastening it again. When you get the hang of it, turn it on your leg so the hooks are face down and you have to do it without being able to see what you are doing. Now, you are ready for the next time you see your lady and it comes time to remove her bra. Be sure to use two hands. Don’t try to impress her with any one-hand tricks, unless you are very well practiced. Wrap you arms around her in a hug-like fashion. Grab each side of the bra clasps, one side with each hand. Fold the two sides together, pushing on one side and pulling on the other. It should come right open. Now remove the bra. Your lady will be far more impressed with a smooth removal than if you try to yank it off or whip it away.
• As for her panties, John Gray does an incredible job of describing how to best remove a woman’s panties in his book, ‘Mars and Venus in the Bedroom’:
• “A man should begin to touch between her legs only when he thinks she is ready. Sometimes it is good to first touch around the lining of the panties and gradually explores her vulva. It is very exciting for her if he doesn’t just suddenly pull down her panties. Instead, he may start to pull them down and then pull them back up a little higher. Instead of taking them off, he can begin touching her on the inside edge of her panties across the back, then the front, then along the edge down the front. Then he can put his fingers inside the edge between her legs. Once he has checked with a gentle, probing finger that she is moist, he can take off her panties. Or, instead of immediately pulling them off, he can once again delay pulling them down to convey the message that he is in control of his passions.
• Even if his passion is mounting, he can take a long time. This restraint and control allow her to feel freer to release her inhibitions and let go of control. Instead of taking off her panties, he can reach around her buttocks and expose her bare bottom. He can begin to touch and stroke her buttocks and her inner thigh from behind. Eventually, he can take off her panties and begin stroking her inner thighs and circling her whole vulva.” -Mars and Venus in the Bedroom

Squeezing Her Breasts:

• Most men squeeze a woman’s breasts like they squeeze the Charmin. A lot of women get tired of that. Stroke her breasts. Kiss them. Lick them. Caress them. Don’t just squeeze them really hard. Spend some time with her breasts. The average guy spends only 2-3 minutes per breast during a whole sexual encounter! Don’t you think your partner deserves more? Do you want to be like every other guy or do you want to stand out from the mediocre masses?
• Some women aren’t interested in breast stimulation at all. While over 90% of women report that their partners stimulate their breasts either manually or orally during sexual activity, only 50% reported that they actually enjoy breast stimulation. The rest tolerate it because either their partner likes it or because their partner doesn’t realize that the women don’t enjoy it. Why not ask your lady what she prefers.

Biting And Twiddling Her Nipples:

• Don’t clamp down on her nipples like you are going to bite them off. Nipples are sensitive. There will be some women who will really like that, but the majority of women will prefer you to be a little more gentle with their nipples. Again, your best bet is to ask. Also, stop rolling her nipples between your thumb and forefinger all the time, like you are trying to turn a radio dial to tune in a faint radio station. A little bit of that may be ok sometimes, but go for variety.
• The more techniques you have in your repertoire, the better. And be sure to focus in on the entire breasts, not just the nipples. Besides, some experts claim that the nipple isn’t the most sensitive part of the breast, anyway. They suggest that the upper part of the breast from the 9:00 to the 3:00 position may be even more sensitive. See if this holds true for your lady. Also, don’t forget about the sides of the breast and the undersides.

Begging!

• “He wanted me to do things I was NOT comfortable with, and after telling him a firm NO, he would start begging!” Guys, it’s ok to ask your lady to do something that may be a little kinky or out of the ordinary, but don’t keep begging her if she says no. Nagging her about it will only make matters worse. Besides, are you in this just for your own selfish pleasure, or is this supposed to be a physical expression of the love that you share with her? That’s something to think about. If you really love her, quit trying to make her do things she isn’t comfortable doing.

Too Impatient:

• “Start slow. Turn me on before you jump me. As a matter of fact, make me BEG you before you jump me.” This is a big one that a lot of guys need to learn. When it comes to driving a car, most guys like to take the quickest, most direct route to their destination. That’s great, but when it comes to lovemaking, taking the most direct route to your destination (orgasm) is the quickest route to sexual dissatisfaction for your lady – and her dissatisfaction leads to less frequent sex for you! After all, why would she want to have sex with you very often if she already knows it will be unfulfilling for her? Instead of taking the quickest, most direct route to orgasm, learn to take the scenic route. That’s the route that will have your woman wanting to travel your sexual highway a lot more often. Spend a lot of time on foreplay. Spend time kissing her, touching her, and telling her why you love her. This is the fuel your woman needs in order to get the most out of your lovemaking.
• The more foreplay you give her, the more turned on she will be and the more explosive her orgasms will be. My advice, and the advice of the lady who gave me the quote above, would be to get her so turned on that she begs you to make love with her. Then you know she is really ready for you and will enjoy the experience to the fullest. It’s up to you. You can race to a mediocre orgasm and have her rarely looking forward to sex with you, or you can take your time working up to an incredible orgasm and have her wanting you to work your expertise all the time.

ATTACKING THE CLITORIS.

• For many women, direct stimulation of the clitoris can be uncomfortable and even painful, especially early in the lovemaking. Some women may need you to wait until they are really aroused before they’ll find direct clitoral stimulation pleasurable.
• Some women can’t stand direct clitoral stimulation at all – even after arousal. They may need indirect stimulation. Your best bet is to ask your lady what she needs when it comes to stimulating her clitoris.

Not realizing That Many Women Need Clitoral Stimulation To Orgasm:

• Many women cannot orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. If your lady is among these, it’s perfectly normal. In fact, only around 30% of women can orgasm from intercourse alone. The rest need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. Here are some ways to incorporate clitoral stimulation into intercourse:
• She can manually stimulate her clitoris during intercourse.
• You can manually stimulate her clitoris during intercourse.
• Get either a vibrating egg or a vibrating bullet. You can purchase these at your local adult toy store or you can order them online. Now, turn on the bullet (or egg). Start with low speed, if you have a multi-speed model, and place it right against her clitoris. Now, enter her vaginally with your penis (use missionary position). Your body will hold the bullet (or egg) in place on her clitoris while you stroke in and out of her vagina. This way, she can receive the clitoral stimulation that she may need in order to orgasm during intercourse.
• Read up on the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT). It places your body in a more advantageous position for clitoral stimulation.
• Insert your penis into her vagina as far as it will go. Don’t move it in and out. Just grind your pelvis right up against her clitoris and keep grinding. You may need to lubricate her, first, as you want to pleasure her clitoris, not irritate it.
• If you have ever watched a porno, you will see that most of the time, the two people involved only have physical contact at one point of the bodies – the genitals. Try some better coverage than that. Cover her like Deion Sanders covers a wide receiver. Put your body flat against hers, touching at as many points as possible without hurting her. A lot of women will really love the extra coverage and I promise you won’t get penalized for holding! It may also allow for better contact with the clitoris.
• Using a long, narrow, silky scarf, place it’s midpoint behind your penis and testicles. Bring the ends around to the front, just above the base of your penis and tie them together firmly, but not painfully, in a large knot. The larger the knot, the better. You may even want to tie several knots to maximize the size of your knotted area. Be sure to leave the free ends at least a foot long. During missionary-position intercourse, your lady can grab the free ends of the scarf with her hands and pull back and forth on them to stimulate her clitoris with the knot.
• When you are on top in the missionary position, instead of having your legs inside of hers, try putting them outside of hers. With her legs together, she will get more stimulation than normal and you are more likely to make contact with her clitoris as you thrust. You can still thrust the usual way, but a circular motion like you are stirring a drink with your penis really works well.
• Another way to help provide clitoral stimulation during intercourse is to gently hold her butt cheeks apart during intercourse.
• Use the “Clockwise, Counter Clockwise Technique” during intercourse. Insert your penis fully into her vagina. Now grind lustfully against each other. You grind in a clockwise motion while she grinds in a counter clockwise motion. This allows for terrific clitoral stimulation.

Not Listening or Paying Attention To Her Needs:

• If she tells you to ease up a bit, or move a little to the left, or says something else to help give you direction and you don’t listen, then you not only aren’t going to give her the most pleasure possible, you also may frustrate her. Listen to her directions and follow them.

Being Inconsiderate:

• “He keeps lying his shoulders down on my face so I can’t breathe. I told him a few times that I’m suffocating, but he doesn’t seem to get the message.” Again, guys, I’m going to have to ask you – are you in this for your own selfish pleasure or do you really love the lady you are with? You have to listen up. Pay attention to your lady and her signals, both verbal and non-verbal. Don’t zone out and only focus on your own pleasure. If you want to only focus on yourself, then get off of your lady and read up on some great masturbation techniques.

Inattention:

• “He’s kind of clumsy and sometimes hurts me. When I groan with pain, he mistakes it for a groan of pleasure. The only time he ever noticed was when I screamed and almost jumped off the bed.” Reading this one, I can’t help but think this is the fault of both parties involved. I believe if the lady is uncomfortable, she has a responsibility to tell the guy in no uncertain terms that she is uncomfortable. Groans of pain can be mistaken for groans of pleasure. On the other hand, guys, you should be so tuned into your lady that you should know what she is feeling. You should also be talking to her. “Are you doing ok?”; “Are you comfortable?”; “Do you need anything?”; “How does that feel?”; “Are you enjoying yourself?”

Taking Direction Too Personally:

• Several women mentioned that sometimes when they give us direction in the bedroom, such as asking us to ease up a bit, we take it too personally and get our feelings hurt as if we weren’t doing a good job. “If I told him I didn’t care for something he was doing to me in the bedroom, he’d start to whine and get his feelings hurt.” Don’t take direction personally, guys. Pay attention to it so you can learn how to better please your woman. Consider yourself lucky that you have a woman who will give direction. Would you rather have your woman say nothing, but secretly be uncomfortable with what you are doing to her?

Too Mechanical:

• “You can sometimes tell when a guy has studied something to try to please a girl and he seems all mechanical and stuff, trying to remember everything step by step. Not cool! Go with the flow!” Learning new things to try in the bedroom can be extremely fun. Many ladies love that their men are always trying to keep things fresh by learning new things to try out. I have a word of caution for you, though. Women like the lovemaking to flow naturally. So, having a dry erase board next to the bed with step by step instructions for that new move you just read about is a horrible idea.
• Your woman wants you focusing on her, not on trying to remember some silly move. Don’t get me wrong, new ideas are great. I completely enjoy learning new things to try out in the bedroom. I’m just suggesting you do your homework and learn the technique outside of the bedroom so that when it comes time to try it out on your lady, you can do so while completely focusing on her and not on trying to remember the technique.

Being Distracted During Lovemaking:

• One lady commented, “Keeping the television on is very distracting. If it must be on, please switch it to a music channel.” Another complained, “Never say lets hurry up and get this over with, the game is about to come on.” Your lady must feel that there is nowhere else on Earth you would rather be and nothing else you would rather be doing right now than making love with her.

Signature Moves:

• “The biggest mistake my past lovers have made is to assume that what worked on a previous lover (or lovers) to help them achieve an orgasm is what must work for me, too, even after I have tried to get through to them what DOES work for me. I believe it is my responsibility to let them know what does work for me, but it obviously doesn’t do any good if they are still going to insist on doing things the way they “know” is best.” Many guys have a signature move that they are really fond of.
• Because they have had success with the move in the past, sometimes they may be guilty of focussing too much on it with a new girlfriend. No move works on every woman. Everyone is different, remember? Go ahead and try out those moves that have worked well for you in the past, or that great move your buddy said drove his girlfriend crazy. Just be sure to pay attention to what your girl’s moans and wiggles tell you about it. If she lies there like a bump on a log, grabs your hand to stop you, or pulls back from your touch, then try variations – harder, softer, faster, slower, etc.
• If you find a variation that works for her, remember it – then you’ll already have a head start for next time. If you still get no response after the variations, move on to something else. I have heard women complain that some men are bound and determined to make their “signature move” work at all costs like they have a one track mind. Such behaviour can be frustrating and ruin the mood.

MENTIONING PAST LOVERS.

• “The dumbest thing any man can do is talk about past lovers while out on a date, let alone in bed.” The last thing your lady wants to hear about is all of your past lovers. If you want her to feel special, you need to focus on her and not on your past lovers. Make her feel like she is the only woman in the world when she is with you.

Thrusting Too Hard Or Too Fast:

• According to many ladies, when it comes to intercourse, one of the worst things you can do is thrust away right from the start like a rabbit in heat. Take your time. Start slow. Build up to faster thrusts, if that’s what the two of you like. Another one of the worst things you can do when it comes to intercourse is to thrust too hard, like a runaway jackhammer, right from the start.
• Remember that as you thrust, your hipbone can dig into her stomach or thigh. The harder you thrust, the more painful this can be for her. Sometimes your lady may request harder thrusts. If so, then by all means, give her what she wants. Just be sure she is ready, willing, and able to accept your hard thrusting before you attempt it. If your lady asks for it hard and nasty, here is a terrific tip to help you give her hard, deep thrusting:

Headboard Leverage Technique:

• Sometimes, your lady might want good, hard, deep, vigorous thrusting penetration. Here’s a technique to help you do this a little easier. Lie down on the bed in the missionary position, but turn 180 degrees so your feet are facing the head of the bed. Scoot down to where your feet are right up against the headboard. Using the headboard with your feet will give you the extra leverage you need for some forceful thrusting from the missionary position. Be sure to keep your lady relaxed. Don’t let her get into a tensed body mode.

Squishing Her:

• Be careful not to put too much of your weight on her. Men are generally larger than women are and this can be painful for her. If she is spending too much time and energy thinking about being able to breathe, she isn’t concentrating on her pleasure – or yours.

Barking Directions:

• Unless you are role-playing, don’t bark out instructions like a drill sergeant. Speak to her in a soft, gentle, loving voice or your little soldier’s sex life may be missing in action for a few days.

Talking Dirty:

• Many women like it when you talk dirty to each other in bed. Others don’t. Don’t make the mistake of doing so without knowing if your lady likes it, first. Your best bet is to ask her.

Spanking Her:

• During your sexual activity, don’t spank your lady without her permission. There will be a lot of women that will really enjoy that. There are a lot of others that really won’t. Don’t do it to your lady until you find out what she thinks about the idea. You could catch her completely off guard and upset her. She might even smack you back – and not in a good way!

Attempting Anal Sex And Pretending It Was An Accident:

• If you have trouble finding the right hole, one lady suggested purchasing a GPS system or taping a map to your headboard. If you want to try anal sex, you have to ask her first. Attempting this without asking first and then pretending it was an accident is not acceptable. If you are truly unsure of what you are doing, then brush up on basic female anatomy before you do anything else.

Stopping For A Break In The Middle Of The Action:

• During oral sex, if you can tell that she’s getting close to orgasm, don’t stop for anything – not even if your tongue feels like it will fall off. If you do stop, even for a minute, you will likely have to start all over again. Most women can’t pick up where they left off. Here are three tips for you. The first is for when your tongue becomes tired in the middle of the action. The second two are tongue strengthening exercises to build more tongue stamina.

Tired Tongue Tip:

• If your tongue gets tired while pleasuring her, just curl it up against the outside of your upper lip. Now, you can still pleasure her with the exposed backside of your tongue while your tongue rests and still not break the sensation of softness and heat that she is enjoying. By the time you need to do this, there should be enough lubrication from her to avoid any dryness.

Tung-Fu Technique:

• This is an ancient Chinese Taoist secret exercise to strengthen the tongue for oral sex. Hang an orange on a string. Use martial arts on it with your tongue. Jab it. Move it from side to side. Lift it up. After a few weeks, graduate to a grapefruit.

Lifesaver Tongue Stamina Tip:

• This is a great exercise to gain tongue endurance for oral sex. Hold a Lifesaver at the front of your mouth in the upright position, either between your lips and gum or just inside your teeth. Now, using tiny tongue motions, dissolve the lifesaver from the inside out. Like great oral sex, this takes time, patience, and a strong, nimble tongue.

Not Caring Whether Or Not She Cums:

• This is the best way to ensure she’ll never make love with you, again. Guys that cum and then roll over and go to sleep without finishing off their ladies will forever wonder why they can’t keep a good lady.

CUMMING TOO SOON.

• If you are prone to premature ejaculations, then be sure to have a back up plan in mind to finish your lady off. It is not ok to have an orgasm yourself and then give up on the lovemaking. You should finish what you start.

Not Cumming Soon Enough:

• Many men may think that thrusting away for an hour without Cumming is the mark of a sex god and is every woman’s dream for their man. Well, most women aren’t looking for a marathon man of such proportions. Most women get raw and numb after awhile and are ready for it to end. So, don’t cum too early, but don’t take too long, either.

 
Asking Us If We’ve Cun Yet!

• “When a guy asks whether I’ve come yet, it kills any momentum I might have had. I hate that.” Guys, it’s great that you are concerned with your ladies pleasure, but if you ask her about her orgasm in the middle of the act, it can not only be an added pressure for your lady, it can also take her even further away from orgasm. Afterwards, if you ask her and she did cum, you might feel foolish for not recognizing the fact that she did. If you ask and she didn’t cum, you might feel foolish that you didn’t give her an orgasm. Either way, it’s probably not a good idea to ask. Some women said they wouldn’t mind, though, as long as they were asked afterwards. Ask your lady about her thoughts on the situation.

Asking Me If It Was Good:

• “It’s always good, but if the guy asks me, then my impression of him drops a few points because if he was really paying attention, he would have known it was good.”

Condom Disposal:

• Condom disposal is the man’s responsibility. Don’t leave it behind for her to clean up. Not only is this thoughtless, it also may make her wonder if you’ll expect her to clean up after you all the time in other areas of your life.

Not Snuggling After Sex:

• Most women really like to snuggle after making love. This is a terrific time to make the emotional connection that most women (and a lot of men, too) need. A good rule of thumb that I really like is to always let your lady fall asleep first. This serves several purposes:
• She can never accuse you of rolling over and falling asleep right after sex.
• It prevents you from keeping her awake with your snoring.
• You may find it really relaxing and reflective to just hold your lady for awhile as she sleeps. Look at her, think about what she means to you, and think about how much you love her.

Rushing To The Shower Immediately After Sex:

• “Right after sex, he rushes to the shower. That makes me feel like I’m dirty.” Guys, many women have said that they feel dirty when you get up immediately after a lovemaking session and head right for the shower. Try not taking a shower immediately afterwards. A lot of people even sleep that way until morning. If you must run for the shower, make sure she doesn’t think you are running away from her. Give her a big kiss and tell her she made you so hot you have to jump in the shower real quick to cool off. Better yet, why not invite her along.

Getting Dressed Or Leaving Immediately After Sex:

• This sends the message that you got what you wanted and now you are leaving. This is not a good message to send if you would like a repeat performance in the future. Spend some time with her and don’t leave immediately afterwards in most circumstances.

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Counselling and sex therapy are sometimes effective in helping patients with sexual problems, especially when caused by psychogenic reasons. Sex therapy promotes education and relief of symptoms of sexual dysfunction. Marital and personal counselling is targeted on interpersonal and relationship issues which contribute to resolving a couple’s or an individual’s psychological and emotional dysfunction.

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Dr.D.Senthil Kumar, B.H.M.S., M.D (Alt Med)., M.Phil(Psy)
Consulting Homoeopath & Psychologist

 

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Vivekanantha Homeopathy Clinic

Chennai: +91 9786901830

Pondicherry (Puducherry): +91 9443054168

Panruti: +91 9786901830

 

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